The Fear at the Edge and the Need to Love
El miedo en el límite y la necesidad de amar
The teacher explores how the deepest fears, of death and losing control, guard the boundary of the known self, and how the belief that we need love is actually a contraction away from our true nature as loving.
The Fear at the Edge and the Need to Love
The teacher explores how the deepest fears, of death and losing control, guard the boundary of the known self, and how the belief that we need love is actually a contraction away from our true nature as loving.
This has to do with the deepest fear, and it is the fear of death. It is usually a fear of death, or of going crazy, of losing control. It is the fear of the end of what we know, the end of the known, the cage that we are familiar with.
The fear and the pain of opening
That aspect is the fear, but there is also pain, because it has to do with feeling and opening our heart. We carry certain beliefs. One, for example, is that we need love, and it functions as a crutch. We needed it when we were babies and up to a certain age. Then something changes, but it is gradual and slow, and we do not realize that the shift from needing love changes to needing to love.
Needing love versus needing to love
Whenever we go back to the belief that we need love, we contract. The only way to say it is that what you are is love. What you are is loving. That is why it needs to love. So whenever you hold some form of belief that you need love, you are in some form of self-denial, and that is suffering, because you are going against yourself. Anything that fights with reality will cause suffering.
Not about passive acceptance
I am not talking about changing things. At no point today have I talked about changing things. So if a child is being abused in front of you, I am not saying you should simply accept that. You can change that. But what I am pointing to is more subtle. It is the present moment.