Bigger Dreams Than You Think
The Addiction of Resistance and Chosen Suffering
November 15, 2023
dialogue

Bigger Dreams Than You Think

Sueños más grandes de lo que crees

A student shares a dream about an unexpected encounter with a famous person, prompting a reflection on the nature of deep desire and the fear that arises when contemplating what the universe may truly want for us.

Bigger Dreams Than You Think

A student shares a dream about an unexpected encounter with a famous person, prompting a reflection on the nature of deep desire and the fear that arises when contemplating what the universe may truly want for us.

I had a short dream I'd like to share. I know you analyzed another dream for me before, and I think it falls along the same line. Sometimes I'm very confused by the question of what I really want. I have no clue, or I tend to fall back on ideas about myself from the past, like "I like music, so I probably want to dedicate most of my time to that." But yesterday it suddenly dawned on me: maybe what I want is not really known to me yet, and it's much bigger than what I'm thinking. That also relates to what you were saying just now, that ultimately what we want is waking up.

So here's the dream. I was on some kind of public transport, a bus or something, with a group of people. I was near Messi, the football player, and he was just standing there. For some reason I talked to him, and I was relating to him very authentically, not feeling like "whoa, he's a superstar" or anything like that. I was about to get off in two stops and was saying goodbye, and he said something like, "Now I have to go home, and I feel lonely. Nobody ever calls me."

I felt something rise up in me: it would be really nice to connect with this guy. So I offered to call him and do something together. He said, "Yeah, sure." I was also surprised that he was saying he was lonely and that nobody called him. I started to write down his number, but it was confusing. I didn't know how to write his name, and for some reason it felt important to get it down correctly. I was in a hurry because I needed to get off, but I couldn't manage the communication in time. That was the whole dream.

The surprise of being welcomed

What stands out is that you're surprised someone like him would be interested in hanging out. I think this dream points to something important: contemplate bigger dreams. That's what I mean when I ask, "What does the universe want?" The deep desire comes from the universe.

That's what I'm trying to wrap my head around.

Exploring desire through feeling, not just thought

You can explore it intellectually by contemplating options, which is useful. But also explore it at the level of feeling. Notice fear. When does fear appear? If you're sensitive enough to recognize it, you'll see it as a form of "no, I can't go in that direction."

Do you mean feeling in relation to recognizing fear specifically, or feeling more broadly, not necessarily just contemplating options and what I think about them?

What you feel about it. Pay attention to that.