The Loneliness of Bigger Dreams
La soledad de los sueños más grandes
A student shares a dream about an encounter with a famous person, leading to a discussion about desire, fear, and the solitude that comes with pursuing what you truly want.
The Loneliness of Bigger Dreams
A student shares a dream about an encounter with a famous person, leading to a discussion about desire, fear, and the solitude that comes with pursuing what you truly want.
I had a dream where I felt something like, "It would be really nice to connect with this person." I offered to call him and do something together, and he said yes. I was also surprised because he mentioned being lonely, saying nobody called him. I started writing down his number, but it was confusing. I couldn't figure out how to write his name correctly, and for some reason that felt important. I was in a hurry, but I couldn't manage that communication while rushing, because I wanted to get it right.
What stands out is that you're surprised someone like him would be interested in hanging out. I think it points to something worth contemplating: bigger dreams. That's what I mean when I ask, "What does the universe want?" The deep desire comes from the universe.
That's what I'm trying to wrap my head around.
Exploring at the level of feeling
You can explore it intellectually, contemplating options, which is useful. But also explore it at the level of feeling. Notice fear. When does fear appear? If you're sensitive enough to recognize it, it shows up as a form of "no, I can't go in that direction."
Do you mean feeling in relation to recognizing fear? Or not necessarily contemplating options, but noticing what I feel about them?
Yes, what you feel about it. Feeling in every sense. If you feel fear, then: "Oh, that's interesting." And then you might feel excitement. You could write things down, keep a journal.
Fear inside the big dream
Question (from another student): I had a thought about the dream, if that's okay. What struck you was that this person said he was lonely, and that someone like him could be lonely. In relation to thinking about what you want, if the dream is bigger, this famous person represents a big dream. But in the bigness of that dream, there is also fear of loneliness. That just popped up as a thought.
"Lonely at the top," as the saying goes.
The solitude of uniqueness
When you do what you want, you are infinitely alone, because nobody wants what you want. By definition, you are unique. But precisely because you are unique, you might get closer to others who are also doing what they want. As Osho always said: the mountains never meet, the peaks never meet.