Fear and What We Really Want
El miedo y lo que realmente queremos
A reflection on how fear often masks our deepest desires, and how clarifying both can unlock frozen patterns of avoidance.
Fear and What We Really Want
A reflection on how fear often masks our deepest desires, and how clarifying both can unlock frozen patterns of avoidance.
Try and fail is a form of fear. To notice that might help make more clear and aware what it is you want. Usually, what we are most afraid of is also what we want.
The trick of misdirected fear
Sometimes we trick ourselves. We think we are afraid of one thing, and it is actually something else, or even the opposite thing. This misdirection is a way to stay away from what we are really afraid of, which is what we really want.
Clarifying the mind, not dismissing it
It is important to clarify this, not just to put all thought and psychology into one bag, call it "thought," and set it aside. By observing thought and observing the mind, we can clarify its functioning and make the thought process more aligned with our truer understanding. It is often important and valuable to go into it and notice: what is it that I am really afraid of? What is it that I really want?
When clarity makes choice inevitable
Once this gets clarified, the choice almost becomes natural. It comes as a consequence. It almost becomes an inevitability. This state of being pulled in different directions, which puts us in a frozen pattern, can be unlocked by being in touch with the fear and being in touch with what we really want. We can let that contact clarify things. We often do not want to clarify, because if we do, it becomes inevitable that we move in the direction of fear and potential pain.