Trapped Between False Choices
Atrapado entre falsas opciones
A question about the feeling of being caught between two equally difficult options, and how the mind constructs that sense of being stuck.
Trapped Between False Choices
A question about the feeling of being caught between two equally difficult options, and how the mind constructs that sense of being stuck.
When you asked whether it is fear of loneliness or fear of relationship, I thought it was both. It feels like being between a rock and a hard place: option one looks difficult, option two looks difficult, and life is going to take me down one of those routes either way.
The trick we play on ourselves is the sense that there are two options and that they are mutually exclusive. It's one or the other. But being in a relationship doesn't solve loneliness, and being alone doesn't solve the experience of relationships. These are false polarities.
The mind as a trap-making machine
When that happens, it is really us choosing a mental paradox as a way to freeze or get stuck. And that is a fear response.
Is it that the mind chooses a way to be frozen, that it wants to be frozen?
The better way to say it is that we use the mind to create the experience of being trapped between two false dichotomies. The mind is an imagination machine, and we use it to construct that trap.